The world is desperate for healers. Not the kinds of people who wave their arms around a stranger’s cancer-ridden body and shout prayers for a miracle, pointing to you on the other side of the television screen. Those kinds of healers are scary.
The world is desperate for healers of a different kind. For the kinds of people who welcome our fragile bodies into their waiting rooms, closely examine our physical weaknesses and listen to our nervous-to-utter questions.
For the kinds of people who make us feel at ease when we are sick and when our people are sick. They ask thoughtful questions. They are thorough when they offer suggestions and prescriptions.
If you have a good physician in your corner, you know what I mean.
Your good physician most likely resembles Luke of Antioch, the author of the third gospel in the New Testament. In the introduction to Luke, my ESV Hebrew-Greek Key Word Study Bible points out that Luke was widely known as “the beloved physician” (Col. 4:14). He was known for his medical expertise, but what made him beloved was:
1) his willingness to be relational and compassionate,
2) his unwavering commitment to seek and do good as “a fellow worker” alongside Paul, and
3) his keen perception, especially as he recognized Jesus caring for women, the weak and poor, the outcasts, and those who were suffering.
And if you’re not in the care of a good physician, you probably know it. The waiting room feels more like a morgue than a welcoming place for the sick. As soon as you or your child are called back to the patient room, you feel like you are on the clock. From start to finish, the appointment feels rushed, impersonal, and cold.
It wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized how particular I would be when it came to choosing physicians for our family. But I asked lots of friends for recommendations, switched physicians a few times until I felt genuinely cared for, and continued asking questions anytime I found myself in a doctor’s office.
Looking back on the process of choosing physicians, I’m proud of my twenty-something self for asking all of those questions. I felt silly at the time and sometimes over-inquisitive. But now we have a team that I trust to help my family in our growing needs. Our family physician, my OB/GYN, and the kids’ pediatrician — each of these individuals helps me care for my family. I need all of these people in my family’s corner as we seek to take care of our bodies.
First, we need a good family physician that we trust because every few years something happens. My very healthy husband gets sick, convinces himself he is not, and only goes to see the doctor because he is about to crash. We are desperate for excellent care and strong drugs. If he is missing work to see the doctor, it is because he is dying. This sounds like an exaggeration. It is not.
For me, the story is a bit different. I see my OB/GYN at least once a year, and I look forward to seeing her. She is a sounding board for all things female health, especially when it comes to my aging, changing, post-baby body. She is honest, compassionate, has time for my questions, and follows up with me after I visit her.
Our children need the same. They need a pediatrician that hears them and that hears you.
I could go through more justifications about why we need good physicians in our corner, but this interview with Dr. Sue Bascik will probably be all that you need. After reading it, I hope you’ll see how a good physician provides a strong foundation for healthy conversations that need to happen in our families.
Most adults don’t know where to start when it comes to leading healthy body image conversations. Most kids don’t even know what healthy body image is. And “having confidence” in our bodies doesn’t just happen on its own, especially during seasons of body change and growth.
So, read the interview and consider some new questions. Feel free to comment and even share your favorite doctors with us and why you like them.
And join me next week as we walk through the second person we need in our corner as we affirm the truth — that God has given us a gift in the lovely bodies we indwell.
We are united in the good work of Restoring Generous Love for the Female Body by Becoming More Compassionate, Capable and Strong.