Juleeta C. Harvey

Empowering Women to Believe Body Truth

Loving Lovely : Body Shame, No More

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Let’s talk. Body Shame No More in the #Sisterhood.  Photo by Brandi Ibrao on Unsplash

How do we Love Lovely? 

Lovely is the daughter that looks up into your eyes and asks you quizzically, “Why did that little girl call me fat, Mommy?  Am I really fat?”

Lovely is the friend who subtly nudges you at dinner and asks, “Hey, can we talk for a few minutes after dinner?  I’m feeling weak, losing weight, and I’m kind of scared about what is happening to my body.  I heard Jody telling another mom that she thinks I’m anorexic.”

Lovely is the young woman in your workplace who, obviously, has had plastic surgery, and she keeps to herself.  You’ve considered asking her to join you for lunch, but there’s this voice whispering in your head, “Is she fake?” and so you leave it alone.

You leave her alone. We leave her alone.

We don’t really mean to leave her alone.  We want to Love Lovely. But we struggle. [Read more…] about Loving Lovely : Body Shame, No More

The Confirmation, The Female Body, and What Is At Stake

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Photo credit to the woman who captured wit with a Sharpie, @heathermount. 

The Confirmation

I felt nervous and scared for Dr. Ford and Justice Kavanaugh two weeks ago.

I found myself swinging between anticipation and anxiety as I considered the weight of their impending testimonies. My heart thumped a little more quickly that morning as I listened to the news analysts’ predictions, speaking from my treadmill’s television screen.  [Read more…] about The Confirmation, The Female Body, and What Is At Stake

Why Every Mom Needs to Hear Dr. Christine Ford’s Testimony on Thursday

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As you know, the Supreme Court is abuzz about character this week. Photo by Claire Anderson on Unsplash

I remember that night, and my insides tremble.

It was twenty-six years ago, about this time of year.  Cool breeze brushed against my skin as my best friend and I walked down the street, to a friend’s party just around the corner.  Anticipation jogged my heartbeat faster because I knew he would be there.  It was that guy — the one who flirted with me in Spanish class, the one who threatened guys in the hallway that I stared at a little too long.  He was handsome, funny, forward, and like no one I had ever known.  My fifteen year-old self was taken with him for all the wrong reasons, but taken nonetheless.

We walked through the front door of the “party-house,” my friend and I, and we were greeted Cheers-style by a room full of familiar faces and Hellos.   The soiree had been partying for hours already.  Music blared, hip-hopping from the stereo’s speakers.  A faint hint of cigarette smoke from the patio had made its way inside the living room. Crushed Bud Light cans littered the trash can almost to the brim.  Lively conversation filled the house, and everyone had a drink in their hand.

The only other thing I remember happening that night was the upstairs part. The part where he asked if he could speak to me, alone, away from all the noise. It was something really important. [Read more…] about Why Every Mom Needs to Hear Dr. Christine Ford’s Testimony on Thursday

Body Truth : Maya Angelou Speaks it Phenomenally

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In the poem below, “Phenomenal Woman,” Maya Angelou paints a picture of radiance. This image, by Kyle Loftus, gives us a glimpse of what she writes about in the third stanza — “the sun of my smile.”

This sultry, swaggering, stirring collection of words by the one and only Maya Angelou will beckon you to read and reread again.  Her poetry is full of vivid language, and her writing style is unmatched.  I hope you, my reader, find a smirky kind of smile on your face as you discover this gleaming gem — her poem, “Phenomenal Woman.”  Maybe you’ll even see your yourself in it.  Your lovely body as a gift, meant to stun the world with its beauty.

My praises to you, Ms. Angelou.

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
—
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
—
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
—
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
—
Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou. Used by permission of Random House, an imprint and division of Penguin Random House LLC. All rights reserved.

 

Symptoms, Early Intervention, and Treatment: Licensed Dietician, Kristin Williams, Speaks Up

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How stunning is this mother-daughter pair as walk the length of the dock together? Even with deep waters ahead, we join together in faith, trusting He desires us to seek healing where there is hurt.

Readers and Friends,

After a bit of a hiatus, I bring you a gem — an interview with eating disorder specialist and licensed dietician, Kristin Williams, RDN. In her very gentle approach, Kristin shares with us a wealth of information concerning Symptoms, Early Intervention, and Treatment of Eating Disorders. Conversations about mental illnesses are at an all-time high, and patients meeting criteria on the DSM 5 for such illnesses as Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, and Orthorexia need help! I sincerely hope this interview guides us into more fact based conversations that equip women to see themselves as God ‘s beautiful children – valuable, powerful, and completely lovely.

Juleeta: Hi, Kristin. Thank you for taking time to meet with me today. Readers, Kristin just gave a birth to a beautiful baby boy, Kipton, just over two months ago! Besides being a mom, she is also a licensed dietician who works part-time in her own practice and part-time in a local eating disorder treatment facility. Kristin, thanks for finding time to meet here.

Kristin Williams: Of course. I’m honored to answer some of the questions your readers have about body image and disordered eating. Ask me anything, and I’ll answer as best I can.

J: So, here it goes. My first question is about how it looks when parents approach you if they are concerned about eating disorders in their children. For example, when parents are concerned about the weight of their child, what steps do you take in guiding them?

KW: When parents approach me with weight concerns about their child, I first offer them a listening ear and validate their concerns. A lot of parents of children with eating disorders are overwhelmed with feelings of guilt and shame, believing that they have somehow caused the problem. [Read more…] about Symptoms, Early Intervention, and Treatment: Licensed Dietician, Kristin Williams, Speaks Up

Bodytruth: A New Way

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Here’s to summer, splashing wildly in new waters! Thanks for capturing this image, @dankapeter.

I probably should not do this, but I’m going to give it a try.

I’ve been saying that alot lately.

But I can’t get this new word out of my mind.  It keeps poking at me like a teenage boy, always hungry and refusing to be satisfied unless I respond.  In the past, I have been quick to respond, staying up all night to find a solution to a problem, a satisfactory reply to the new idea rattling in my head.

However, writing the book proposal has been a call to slow down and think differently.  Lately, writing has been less like a frenzied response to a craving and more like the slow opening of an oyster shell.

The outside of the oyster, covered in sand, barely protrudes from the coastal surface.  But once the beachcomber picks up her newly found treasure and cleanses it in the ocean’s incoming waves, the shell’s surface glimmers iridescent patterns — lavender, bright blues and subtle pinks.

And then begins the anticipation.  [Read more…] about Bodytruth: A New Way